Feeling lonely should never be a part of a Christians life.
Now I didn’t say that feeling lonely “Isn’t” a part of a Christians life, I said that FEELING LONELY “should never be” a part of a Christians life. But with that said… for some reason it still can seem to be. So my question is, why?
What is it that makes us feel like we are all alone?
Why is it that we at times feel alone? I know that His word says that He shall never leave me nor forsake me therefore I am never without God. Right? Still I have at times in my walk with Christ felt completely alone and I’m sure that I am not alone in this. (Wow, pun,… hmmm didn’t mean for that to happen. Oh well. ) What is it that makes us feel like we are all alone? Really. What is it about us that makes us feel the need to be with others? To have someone else there with us? But even another question is, how is it that we can FEEL ALONE even though we aren’t?
Question. Have you ever been in the midst of a large number of people, say like at a conference or a concert, and felt like you were completely by yourself even though your surrounded by hundreds or thousands of people? How about a smaller group, say like a family reunion or large gathering of friends and family. You know most everyone there, but for some reason you FEEL disconnected and alone.
Now I’m sure that there are some psychologist or psychiatrists that understand the principles and psychology of the meaning behind this feeling of aloneness but do they understand what God meant when He said, He will never leave us nor forsake us? God’s promises are always true!
I wonder if that feeling of aloneness we are experiencing isn’t in some form, or a sense of selfishness. A time of wanting someone to look at us and tells us how much we are loved or needed or how great they think we are. I mean come on, the flesh loves to be told just how great it is. Am I right? (Don’t answer that you will just be feeding my flesh and I don’t want that.) And some times when we can’t seem to get the attention that we desire, we can find ourselves accepting bad behavior in our lives, and even mean or destructive words, because just like a child, attention for bad behavior, is still attention. And that is just sick and twisted but unfortunately it is a reality for some.
I think that we all on some kind of level, are simply desiring to be known and have the attention of someone who knows us. And well, there is an answer for that. We were never meant to be ALONE!!!!
From the day that God formed Adam out of the dust and breathed into him the breath of life, Adam was not alone. God was with him, right? What does God’s word say? Well, we know that God would walk with him in the cool of the day. “And they heard the sound of the Lord God walking in the garden in the cool of the day,…” (Gen 3:8) So did Adam ever feel alone? Was he alone, even while God was with him? Did God stay with him all day every day? I don’t think so. I don’t think that God walked with Adam all day, every day, because if He had then Adam and Eve might not have taken of the forbidden fruit. So when God was not physically beside them, did Adam or Eve for that matter ever feel alone?
We may never know for sure till the day we go home and actually get the chance to ask them. I don’t think that will be one of our big “To Do’s” when we get there. But again we can look at what God’s word says about Adam being alone. It is found in Gen 2:18 “The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”
Why would God say that it was not good for man to be alone unless is it isn’t? But God is always there right? Yes He is, but at times we don’t feel Him, or even notice He is there with us because He is not manifest with us. Meaning that His presence is not tangible to us. But that should in no way lead us to think that His is not with us. God is Omnipresent, everywhere, always! I’m just saying that sometimes, many times, we cannot feel His presence among us as we walk through this thing called life. And this can lead us to a sense of – feeling alone.
Jesus said in Matthew 28:20 “…and lo, I am with you always, even to the end of the age.” (NKJV) Always means… well always! Look at these other translations.
And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.” NIV
And you can be sure that I am always with you, to the very end.” New International Reader’s Version
“And remember that I am always with you until the end of time.” GOD’S WORD Translation
And remember! I will be with you always, yes, even until the end of the age.” The Complete Jewish Bible
And one of my favorites… I’ll be with you as you do this, day after day after day, right up to the end of the age.” The Message Bible
Here is a list of different translations.
In every account it translates as “ALWAYS, Forever, day after day.” So He is there we just aren’t feeling Him! So now the question has changed from “Why do we feel alone at times?” to “How do we NOT FEEL ALONE EVER?”
“My prayer, is a faint and broken whisper
Reminding me to remain strong, I’m safe
When I can’t hear You, it doesn’t mean You’ve left me
Your presence muted teaches me, to have faith”
I love how he says “Your presence muted teaches me, to have faith” Your presence muted, silent, not speaking but still present with me.
I’ve noticed a funny thing about relationships in my time. Well quite a few actually. But one thing I’ve noticed about them is that if you are going to have a really strong relationship with anyone it cannot, I repeat, CANNOT, be about you. It has to be about the other person!!!!
“What?!!” But I’m the one feeling alone?” you say.
If your the only one doing the talking how can you know what the other person thinks or has to say about any situation?
Yeah I know. “Stop it“. It’s not about you!!! It’s about the other person and what you can do for them. They speak, you listen. You can’t have a conversation with someone if your the only one doing the talking. A conversation is a two way street with a single lane in the center of it all. Only one car or in this case, speaker, can go at a time. If your the only one doing the talking how can you know what the other person thinks or has to say about any situation? Stop and listen. Listen to God the Father. Listen to Jesus. Stop for a minute and just listen to the Holy Spirit speak to you.
You see, this whole relationship being about the other person thing? “Yeah”. God knows that. And He listens. He listens to us prattle on and on about every little thing we have to say because He is so infatuated with us that He can’t help but just listen and adore us. But if we want to feel that love that He has for us we need to just be quite and let Him speak love over our lives. Turning our attention from ourselves unto Him and His desires for us. So what does that look like? Well oddly enough for me that looks like reading and speaking what He says about me over my life! And here is the kicker. I actually Believe Him at His word!
We have the choice to receive the love of God at His word, by His word, and through His word. But in order to do that we have to be IN His Word! If you look into the bible with His eyes you will see yourself in it. You will hear how God speaks about those who love Him and listen to His words and receive them. He calls you “Beloved”, a chosen child, adopted by God by His Grace! You will see that you are not your own any more! You’ve been bought with a price! “Chosen”, “Beloved”, “Apple of His eye”, “A Royal Priest”, “Child of God”, “An heir with Christ Jesus” the list goes on and on.
So how do you get out of the feeling of being alone? Proclaim that your “Never alone!” Shout it out loud that You Are Loved By God!!! And let the devil know that your not going to take the lies that he is spewing any longer! Thank Abba Father that He loves you and Thank Jesus that He thought you were so special that He was willing to die for you! Thank Holy Spirit for loving and guiding you into “ALL TRUTH”! Praise Him for His love! And let that truth be your guide.
Now I know that that sounds contradictory to what I just said about not speaking and just listening. But if you think about it you are just repeating what He is saying about you. And by doing this you are not listening to the strange voice of the Stranger! Who we listen to makes a huge impact in our lives. Jesus said, “ My sheep hear My voice, and I know them, and they follow Me.” and “Yet they will by no means follow a stranger, but will flee from him, for they do not know the voice of strangers.” The feeling of being alone should be a “Strangers Voice”. A voice that we should never follow for it is never the truth. We are never alone for our God is with us!
So the next time you start to get a feeling or thought of being alone, remember these points…
- God has never nor shall He ever leave you!
- The thought of being alone is of the enemy! Don’t listen to him!
- Look to God’s word and see who you are in Christ Jesus!
- Speak life over yourself by proclaiming the TRUTH of God’s great love over you and who you are IN HIM!!!
- Rejoice in these truths and give God the glory!!!